Keeping Your Love Life Alive With Romance
(Inevitably it happens in any romantic relationship: As time passes, the romance starts to fade, the romantic gestures come less often, and the flame of passion begins to die out. In this article, Linda Carr-Sears has assembled some ideas for keeping your love life vibrant and healthy. I was especially struck by the line that romance is not about winning over your partner ... it's about expressing your emotion for your partner.)
Keeping Your Love Life Alive With Romance
Linda Carr-Sears
What is romance? Does that word bring thoughts of sappy love poems and red roses? There is so much more to romance than that. A lot of people get the wrong idea about what romance is supposed to be. Many people see it as a way to "woo" or get your lover when it should instead be a way of expressing feelings you already have for your lover. Ask almost any couple and they may tell you that they were romantic at the start, but over the months and years the romance just seemed to fade. Why does this happen? Well, too many people think that they are supposed to work so hard to get the person to begin with. The guy will buy flowers and candy and maybe even gifts.
He will remember every anniversary, even the weekly ones and he will ring in each one with a new gift. He may write poems, love letters, or songs to his beloved. The woman is enamored! She is his. Then over time, the love letters seem to fade. I mean, what's the point - you see each other every day, yes? And then it seems the flowers and gifts only come on special occasions. Then they only come on holedays and birthdays.
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In time, it may seem that you never even go out anymore. You would just love to have a date once in awhile. You may even be one of those unfortunate couples who doesn't even say I love you frequently, unless you count the "love ya" grunt that you get in passing when someone is leaving or going to work. What happened?! How do you bring back that loving feeling - or keep from losing it to begin with? First, you need to understand that romance is not about winning your partner. It should be about expressing your emotions for that person. Your affections should grow over time so your romantic efforts will grow as well.
Don't pull out all your arsenal in the beginning. Let it grow and build as your love grows. Then as time goes by, you want to always remember ways to show your partner you care and appreciate them. Whether it's a simple little note slipped into a briefcase or a foot massage at the end of the day, you can show your partner how you care. You may decide to treat her to a candlelit bubble bath or him to a full-body romantic massage. You may plan a surprise date night or rent a movie and cuddle up on the couch.
Just cast your daily worries aside and focus on each other. Find time to do this every day and you will find that the romance just comes naturally.
Linda Carr-Sears has created a great web resource for Romance Opportunities
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